Marion Wieboldt: Ridiculous, agreed. The vows you take, regardless of where they are taken and how, small and intimate or big or elaborate the ceremony, are what makes a marriage. I feel like people who want to re-do their wedding want nothing more than a big showy affair and hold very little stock by the vows they took. I find the re-do and do-over weddings insult the vows themselves, as if saying they were not serious the first time or that the words mean nothing without the big show. My marriage vows were taken seriosuly and are sacred to me and my husband. Anyone who takes their marriage lightly enough to want a "do-over" needs to re-evaluate their priorities. The renewal that takes place on a milestone anniversary (50th, 25th) in a church with family and friends is not a big showy re-do and is more of an affirmation of the original vows. I am not opposed to that. Good luck!...Show more
Leticia Laiben: So what happens to a couple who are planning a wedding but t! he bride or groom faces deportation and have to run to the courthouse otherwise never see each other again....then what....I personally don't like vow renewals and redo weddings because the day didn't go as planned,i even dislike excuses like,my fiance is in the military,to me these people can wait BUT to a person facing deportation,ill always give them a pass,you can't help it if the government wants to butt into your lives....Im personally getting married at the courthouse because of something close to this and people are saying when my paperwork is sorted i can do it over and i say NO...that will NEVER happen.Im doing it one time and not playing dress up for everyone else....but i can't sit here and talk for everyone else in my situation who is doing this and having what they wanted later without worrying about getting booted :/&&&...Show more
Cassey Hollinghurst: May 24, 2014 without a doubt.
Woodrow Neyman: We've been together for four years. We've never b! roken up. My sisters have divorced, and I know how difficult ! it is. I wouldn't put myself in that much of a risk. My parents married less than a month of knowing each other, and they're still together. I'm just asking for help choosing a date.
Adrian Paraz: Pick a new date. You dont want your wedding on your birthdays or anniversary. You want to have another day to celebrate as well. How about July 21 2013? I personally think, because you are so young ,you should wait until 2014 though. Your parents stayed together because in their generation divorce was not as prevalent as it now is. Now its about 54 percent of all marriages that end in divorce.
Maynard Phoubandith: First of all I don't know if I believe people can truly change. Lets say they do change. Can you truly get over it and forgive him? That's what I think I would have the hardest time with. I would always wonder why he did it (honestly I could care less what he says, he's always gonna make it sound less severe). When I got upset with him I would alway! s be reminded of what he did and how it was with someone else! I just know it would be really hard to move on! And that's assuming he truly has changed. I do believe some people can, most people can't.Good luck, I'm sorry you are having to go through this!...Show more
Erica Bottaro: Thats a shame I am so sorry for you having to be in this position. I love my fiance more than there are words to describe it but if he cheated on me it would be the end. I would assume I was not good enough for him and let him go, how could I get intimate with him again knowing where his penis has been ?Sorry but thats how I feel, I know some people come back from this, but unfortunately I am one that cant.The trust would be gone forever, and no matter how far into the future you want to look if your man has betrayed you in this way you will always be wondering......Good luck whatever you decide to do....Show more
Esmeralda Pigram: Both go threw the calandar and pick two random da! ys then flip for it.
Moises Rupinski: I personally have way to mu! ch pride to ever take back someone who has cheated on me. Cheating tells me that they lack control, and are selfish and way to self absorbed in whatever it is that makes them happy, even if its just for mere minutes.I would also be always paranoid that they would cheat again, and heaven forbid I ever saw the tramp that slept with my man, I think I honestly would lose it.Plus I have standards, I dont continue to date men who dont show me respect.Why bother? Take time out and be upset, surround yourself with good friends, and go oout there and meet someone worth your time and energy....Show more
Jana Sakasegawa: Re-do weddings are just one symptom of a generation that is indulgent, feels entitled, and has no concept of the sacredness of the marriage ceremony and vows.....their re-dos have reduced the exchange of marriage vows and the ceremony itself to the status of a sweet sixteen birthday party. And instead of treating it like an ADULT gathering it's become a three ri! ng circus or a boardwalk carnival with silly themes, photo booths, 'choreographed' group dances by the bridal party ( usually terrible) endless boring speeches and even more boring slide shows set to cha-chee music that go on and on and on ad nauseum......proper social behavior/etiquette is tossed out of the window as 'ol fashioned & outdated' yet they cry 'my day & I can do/demand anything I want to so suck it up' when they insult and hurt the feelings of their guests---completely forgetting that the comfort of your guests is always to be a consideration for a good host.and the backlash is the equally rude, entitled guest who uses emotional blackmail to demand their wants, who take it upon themselves to invite the uninvited....and I could go on and on about them, too...And to top it all off, ridiculous amounts of money are spent on these social free for alls....It had gotten to the point that I have found myself advising young folk to just elope......Show more
Adrian! Sherlin: It's not even a matter of opinion. Wedding etiquette doesn't! have any rules on it, simply because it's no different than wondering what the "rules" are on how to politely inform your guests there's a cover charge. Err...not an option.And I agree it's an indirect slam on the importance of the REAL wedding vows. By their nature, these vows can only be taken once and every married couple has already taken them....Show more
Donte Liversedge: well you never know when someone is lying or not, but you shouldnt take the chance, because you dont want to really like him all over again then he goes and cheats on you again. I think you shouldnt give him another chance but you can have fun with him (if you can handle it without starting to like him again) tip: if you do want to have fun with him but not like him then get another guy on the side so you can have a back up =]
Erin Arron: Well if you are thinking of doing a small wedding, I suggest instead of getting a florist, (I know this may sound cheap but, my friend did this and it! was beautiful anyway.) buy 5 or 6 bouquets from somewhere and make them yourself my friend took all the daisies and roses out and the big lily in one and put the lily in hers then split the roses and daisies and other mini flowers evenly and made beautiful arrangements, no one knew that it wasn't from a florist and it saved her 500 dollars. I don't know any Caterers in the area because I live in NJ but i can tell you the flowers aren't cheap and this idea really helped her budget. I hope I helped and good luck on the other plans!!!...Show more
Cristopher Gavalis: Vow renewals are one thing and a wedding re do is another. Redo's are tacky and socially very incorrect. No matter what you do whatever it was, the first one was, is and ever shall be the "real" one. I agree many couples no longer take a wedding seriously and forget that it is the love and committment that count not all the frills and expensive show. It is NOT OK.
Dexter Gold: I think redo weddings! are ridiculous
Marion Wieboldt: you should wait. People who marr! y that young usually ends up divorcing.
Marquetta Gimm: You can hire an officiant to do your ceremony on the beach (sometimes only a donation, or a small fee). You are supposed to get a permit to get married on the beach, but that isn't that expensive either... I recently went to a beach wedding where the couple didn't obtain a permit and nothing happened to them... however, there weren't any decorations or chairs either... just the beach... which was beautiful. I am getting married in October too (in central florida) so I've been looking at these things too recently. As I'm sure you have figured out, wedding are EXPENSIVE! We have actually chosen to go away and "elope" for our ceremony and come back for a reception at a family member's house (that's just one way were are cutting costs for us). Having the reception at someone's house you know is a great way to cut costs because you can supply your own alcohol (if you drink) without a corking fee that many, if not! all, reception venues will charge you. You can hire a wedding coordinator to come on the day of to make sure that everything gets set up correctly and troubleshoots any problems that might arise, which would allow you to actually enjoy your reception. Sometimes the coordinator can make suggestions for vendors too... many times they don't charge for the suggestions, just if you want them to book things for you. One last quick note... if you are looking for an alternative to the beach there is a nice location on a lake in central florida call the "Lake Mary Events Center" and it's a really pretty outdoor location and it's really reasonable to rent too. They also have facilities for receptions. You can google it and find their website if you're interested. There are prices on the site too. We were going to have our wedding there before we decided to elope. Good luck with your wedding planning!...Show more
Sabra Roers: Why would you want to go through any hassles! again. Respect yourself and avoid people who play games with your emot! ions.
Augustus Sarria: There are no such things as re-do weddings. Once you are married, you had a wedding. You can't have another wedding if you are already married. I have no issue with celebrating a little later but that celebration should not be anything like a wedding at all.
Paul Maymi: I'm 18, and have been with my fiance for over four years now. We need help choosing a wedding date. I would like to have it around noon/early afternoon.Our anniversary is the 24th of May, and it would be ideal for us to use that as our date. The thing is, next year, that date is on a Friday, and I don't want to make my junior bridesmaid or flower girl miss school for my wedding. The 24th is on a Saturday in 2014, but that's a really, really long engagement and I always work better under pressure.We're open to other dates, but we don't know.Help?...Show more
Adan Alipio: I don't know if I believe in 'once a cheater always a cheater' I think people CAN change. Bu! t I don't believe in taking a cheater back. It's like saying 'it's ok that you violated the trust between us, I still love you and want to be with you' it's NOT ok. They won't really understand the severity of their actions if you take them back, and yes it does make them more likely to do it again (doesn't necesarily mean they will but there's a a greater chance)I believe that cheating is the ultimate violation of a relationship and you should never EVER let someone violate you like that and then act like everything is ok because they are 'sorry'. I have zero tolerance for cheating, you cheat your out....Show more
Robin Marchione: My Fiance and I are in our 30's and we are trying to pay for our own wedding. We have allowed our selves to the budget of $5000.00 We would like to get married on the beach and have a reception after the ceremony. We would like to get married in the Daytona Beach area. We have only lived in this area for a short time. There fore we are unaw! are of any carteres, florists etc that may help us in staying within ou! r budget.. Any help of info that you can provide would be greatly appreciated...Show more
Randall Twehous: I think redo weddings are lame, and really put the people invited by the couple in a very awkward position. Friends and family want to be supportive of their kids, etc, but they have to feel like they're being somehow asked an awful lot to put on this pretend wedding when everyone knows the couple is already husband and wife. I can see instances where a renewal of vows would be very nice-after many years of marriage, after a spouse makes it through a very serious illness that nobody thought they would, after a near-divorce, etc, but I always thought that should be done as a part of an anniversary thing, and isn't just another wedding, but a re-committment thing, and may or may not involve any guests. There's no bridal gown, bridesmaids, bouquet, and all that....Show more
Pam Rampadarat: Very tacky and silly, and immature.If you couldn't afford the wedding y! ou wanted, then you should have waited and saved. If you got married in a court, that was your wedding and that was it. Redo weddings are so stupid...
Cody Shimko: Here are a couple of options that Google found... http://www.daytonabeachweddings.com/index.htmThey do beach ceremonies for as little as $150 and up to $1,000... their packages include a wide variety of add-ons, photography, etc. They also state on their website that they work closely with many local restaurants and caterers that they can help to suggest/book. http://www.loralynnesweddings.com/index.htmlAnother one offering intimate beach ceremonies... there's also several options for reception decor/setup/etc. I'm sure that contacting them they'd be able to help you plan everything. I'd highly suggest speaking with a company like one of the above (google "daytona beach weddings" for some more options)... most of these types of places specialize solely in beach weddings, and can suggest reception locations ! and other vendors, etc. to suit your budget, that they work with extensi! vely. Obviously, the number of guests you expect will change what type of location you can use, as well as reception costs. But when my fiance and I were considering a beach wedding here in Florida (gulf coast though), companies like these were more than willing to work with us and our numbers and budget. Congratulations, by the way!...Show more
Rachal Osaki: i just found out last week. should i take him bk if he sincerely has changed, or do you believe like i do, once a cheater always a cheater?
Dale Mccoun: Communication is the answer to every problem, talk to him about it and why he did it. I wish you well.
Ofelia Kieck: I have attended 2 wedding renewals. One was for my Great Aunt 50th wedding anniversary. It was a lovely church service and a great family dinner afterward. It was amazing. That is exactly how things should be done. Just look at Pam Anderson and Kid Rock, they felt the need to renew their vows every month or so,l and that did not make ! them any more married, did it? They divorced faster than you could have put all of those 10 weddings together.I do not understand why people want to have childish fantasies when they have kids to feed and bills to pay. Some people never grow up and never develop any sense at all....Show more
Warren Kotter: .....once a cheater always a cheater is true. thats happened to me. whatever you do don't take him bak
Eliseo Luma: See herehttp://www.sunkissedweddings.com/Packages.htmlConsider a morning wedding with a brunch reception. Brunch receptions are usually less expensive. Good luck with your planning....Show more
German Thal: I'd stay away and find somebody else. If cheated on you once, he could do it again.
Hipolito Rightmire: it takes someone a lot longer than a couple of months to change.
Torrie Weissenbach: First off, you can't ban people from redo weddings or vow renewals, it's called free will. That's completely absurd that you would say t! hey "shouldn't be allowed". I don't agree with redo weddings, but if so! meone wants to spend THEIR OWN MONEY on it, then they can. Keep your nose out of other peoples business.
Mel Crapo: Here's how you can have a low cost wedding . . The most important thing that you can do is CONTROL YOUR GUEST LIST. Every time you add another name to your guest list, the cash register rings and YOU PAY (for another table, for another chair, for another dinner, for several drinks, and another piece of wedding cake).Get married in the morning and then follow that ceremony with a breakfast or brunch. What would you rather pay? $24.95 for a breakfast/brunch or $89.95 for a dinner (and that does not include the bar bill or the wedding cake). You do not need a DJ at an morning reception.Get married at 130PM or 2PM or 230PM. Your guests have already eaten lunch and it is too early for dinner. You can have a desserts reception or just wedding cupcakes and ice cream parfaits.Get married at sunset or after 7PM. Your guests have already eaten dinner. You ! can serve lite fare(appetizers or deli sandwiches) or just an assortment of desserts or just an ice cream buffet with wedding cake and champagne.Only carry a single rose or just three roses. Just what are you going to do with a big $200 bridal bouquet the next day??Only have a Maid of Honor and a Best Man. You only have one more bouquet to buy and one more boutonniere to buy and two THANK YOU gifts.Avoid buying wedding day accessories. For example: unity candle set, sand ceremony set, garter, guest book and feather pen, disposable table cameras, table favors, monogramed napkins, monogramed matchbooks, ring bearer pillow, flower girl basket, etc.Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant...Show more
Shandi Wedge: Look at dates in 2020 and beyond...if you're still together then.
Lillie Yarde: Wait until 2015 and do it on a Sunday.
Marvel Mcaulay: Also: we would be 19 in May '13 and 20 i! n May '14.
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